Anonymous asked: I was not horribly offended; thank you for sharing your thoughts! I love listening to what people have to say. And I have to say, you had an outstanding answer to my somewhat outrageous viewpoint and thank you for not being one of those people who blow everything out of the water lol. I did not think about it that way, so thank you. Respect!
You’re cool, my chill little anonymous friend! I’d be more than welcome to talk to you more if you ever desire :)
Anonymous asked: I just would like to say... I'm perfectly okay with gay marriage and gay couples. I think everyone should have the right to love who they want. But, I just do not like the fact that it has to be paraded around and shoved in my face everywhere I go. You don't see straight couples rallying at a chick fi la or throwing around banners at a sports stadium. I feel like gay couples should pull in the reins a bit. I don't mean to offend. I just want to hear your thoughts
Firstly, thank you for your support.
Secondly, you don’t have to like the fact that there are parades and protests. They do not exist to please you; we have them because we— the LGBT*Q community— want to have them. They’re for raising awareness or celebrating our culture and community. I’m sorry you don’t like them, but maybe (like Daisy Buchanan) you don’t have to like them to get the full force of their impact.
Thirdly, you asked for my thoughts and you’re getting them. In abundance.
I can’t say that I speak for the whole spectrum of LGBT*Q people who protest or “parade around”. I am just one young queer girl. These are just my opinions. With that said, my opinion is that these things are good things. I do go to protests, and I certainly don’t hide the fact that I tend to date women.
I do these things because “you don’t see straight couples rallying at a chick fi la [sic]”. It’s important to me to do the things I do because they need to be done. A straight relationship is never questioned; straight relationships are the normal, which makes me and my girlfriend de facto outsiders and anomalies.
A straight couple is granted dignity and recognition. I don’t have those luxuries. I am constantly asked if the girl holding my hand is my cousin or my best friend. When I say that we’re dating, I get scoffs. I’m told that it’s “just a phase” or that I’m “just seeking attention”. The idea that I have to fight for equal rights and equal protection under the law in the twenty-first century is appalling and, to me at least, ridiculous.
I also fight for visibility and acceptance in the heteronormative world. I’d like to direct you to this post, which explains it much more nicely than I ever could. I want characters on TV who I can relate to, and for whom being anything other than straight is not a death sentence. I want representations of me in the media that do not reduce me to a stereotype. I want to be recognised as a human being and an equal, rather than someone damned to the fiery pits by your deity. I want to be protected and supported by my government in the same ways you are because I pay taxes like you, I vote like you, I buy milk like you.
As for parading around, I implore you to look at it from my side of the street. I see straight couples kissing in public all the time. Straight couples share seats and straws and everything in between in public all the time. These straight couples hold hands. They go shopping together. They do stupid couple things together. From my point of view, they are parading their relationship around. I understand; when you’re in a relationship, you just want to revel in the other person’s space and you live to spend time with them. Doing things together in the public sphere is just a logical manifestation of those feelings. It’s parading around if you’re straight, and it’s parading around if you’re gay. The trick is, of course, that society seems to have a problem with one group doing it and not others.
Those are just my thoughts. I’m sorry that this is so long, but I got going and I couldn’t stop. There are still a million things that I’d like to say, but I can feel the attention span waning…
You seem very nice, Anon. Thank you for giving me a chance to explain myself and my beliefs— it’s something that I love to do! I hope that I managed to illustrate my position without offending you horribly. If I failed to address any of your questions or curriosities sufficiently, my askbox is always open and, if you prefer the security or convenience of anonymity, that feature is always enabled.
(The same goes to any other nonners lurking in the depths of my blog!)
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